Taking away by adding (New Math?)

I have always been resistant to the word NO. Maybe because it is so negative...
I am not really clear why, maybe I was told this many times as a child, or I am a spoiled brat used to getting my own way? Could be I guess... who knew? (grin)

I have finally lived long enough to realize that "To thine own self be true" should be a mantra that we all live by.. which simply means work with what you've got...
I have been dealt a personality that cannot will not accept the word NO.. so I have learned that you can remove ( say NO) to things in my life by adding the yes's.
I call this "subtraction by addition"..

When I remove things from my life I tend to be all or nothing which creates a Vaccuum that always seems to get filled with stuff I didn't mean to add..
For example if I diet..I will reduce what I eat, good and bad, but when I get hungry, (the vacuum) then I will add stuff like candy Which I don't really even like..
But if I diet by adding.. 8 Glasses of water a day.. or bonus extra Salads, plus what I normally eat I seem to fair much better... I try to add only extra good stuff.. because Good stuff is a reward right? I fill up with good stuff my body is quite happy and the extra water will only benifit me.

When painting if I tell myself NO more "until" I will resist.... Instead I add the "Until" before I paint which means I am very motivated to get done, and ultimately have more time to paint! Bonus!

I know, I Know...... mind games... But I have learned when you share these things you always click with others who are discovering the same things... We are all sisters and brothers struggling with our human spirit!

My No Block has it's benifits.... I am a determined Mother, Painter, Businesswomen,
Friend, and Child of God..

Have a happy YES Day!
Patty